please don't assume that all transmasculine lesbians are detrans, terfs, or hate transfeminine people. my ex girlfriend (amab transfeminine) admitted to me that she was nervous getting into our relationship because i'm a trans male lesbian and she thought i would exclude transfemmes from lesbianism.
i have no idea why she thought that, because i called us lesbians and openly called myself a butch dyke, and acknowledged her womanhood from the get go. i was very much enjoying her womanhood- please don't get assumptions in your head about transmasculine lesbians, we are not all the violent stereotypes you see online, many of us just have complex relationships, and building unnecessary walls between similar and compatible identities is not the way to go about building a bridge to a healthy united lesbian community.
this is not what lesbianism is about. lesbianism is about acceptance in diverisity in identity, not standing with your hairs on end waiting for someone else to be a piece of shit. don't secretly think that every other lesbian is out to get you, it's not doing you any favors! trans male lesbians are not infiltrators, we are your lovers, friends, bedfellows, brothers, siblings, fathers, uncles, and more! we live here!